Sex is enjoyed by everyone regardless of age and gender. It is important for one’s mental as well as physical health. But, the way we view sex in our 20s differs from how we view and enjoy it in our 60s. With age, comes issues like low immunity, low stamina, susceptibility to infections, and poor libido.

However, according to an article published by a leading daily, women enjoy sex more in their later years as after menopause or a hysterectomy, they no longer suffer from the fear of an unwanted pregnancy. Also, men enjoy bonding better in their senior years.

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But one can ensure  good sex-life way into their golden years by avoiding the following mistakes:

1. Not urinating after sex: Sure, take a few minutes to cuddle with your partner, but if you have to empty your bladder, don’t hold it in. Peeing after sex is a sure shot way of avoiding Urinary Tract infections, something more common in women. It can be a nightmare and you are better off avoiding it. Even if you don’t feel the urge to urinate, it is still suggested to empty your bladder after sex.

2. Not cleaning up afterward: Let’s face it, sex is a messy activity. Enjoyable yes, but messy. With the exchange of bodily fluids, you can also end up exchanging infections. Clean yourself with water afterward to avoid vaginal or penile infections.

3. Laying on the bed with your hips tilted upwards: If you are in your 50s or 60s, it’s safe to say that you are avoiding getting pregnant. Laying with your hip upwards is an excellent way of getting pregnant, especially if you have had unprotected sex.

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4. Not using birth control: Having unprotected sex is like gambling and leaving too much to fate. Unless you are planning on getting pregnant, it is not recommended. Use a condom or if you are a woman, take a contraceptive pill. Your doctor is the best judge of your contraceptive methods and can guide you and your partner accordingly. Women with a hysterectomy or who have had menopause can enjoy without any fear.

5. Not getting tested for STDs: If you are having sex with a new partner, it is very important to get routine tests done to check for sexually transmitted diseases. A routine STD check-up should be a part of your plan anyway once you cross 40, as our body’s ability to fight infections goes down with age.

6. Using menthol based lubricant: Women experience vaginal dryness during perimenopause and menopause. In that case, using stimulating lubricants during sexual activity becomes unavoidable. But using a menthol-based lubricant can irritate your skin and cause rashes. Use a water-based lubricant for better results. Ask your doctor for advice.

7. Not paying attention to your heart health: By heart health, we don’t mean your love life but your cardiovascular health. Having a healthy heart means better stamina. It can also boost your confidence and body image.

8. Not communicating with your partner: Sex is an intimate act, no matter what’s your age. With age, we may start taking our partner and their likes and dislikes for granted. Your 50s and 60s are the time to shed inhibitions and have an open discussion with your partner about what would they like in the bedroom. Sex in your 50s and 60s does not have to be boring, but communication should be the key.

Avoid these mistakes to enjoy a wonderful sex-life without worries. After all, everyone deserves to have one!

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